People rarely start thinking about psychotherapy when things are going well for them. If we are really suffering emotionally, we are likely to just want to feel less miserable, desperate, lonely, out of control, or just less stuck.
The purpose of psychotherapy is to understand better how we feel, behave, relate to other people and what motivates us. Longer term, the aim is personal but can be to help us to move on in life, know and accept ourselves and cope better, and hopefully in time, grow to feel more confident or optimistic and find life more satisfying.
Starting psychotherapy is a private matter and a serious commitment, often requiring a good deal of courage, and a sign that someone really wants to get to grips with whatever is troubling them.
What happens during therapy?
If after an initial consultation you decide you would like to begin therapy with me, you’d be encouraged during our regular meetings to think about and share whatever is uppermost in your mind. While it can feel natural to plan ahead, it can also be very useful to be more spontaneous. Feelings, thoughts, wishes, fears, memories and dreams would all be open for exploration.
Many people agree that childhood experiences are important in shaping our feelings and the way our minds work, large parts of which can operate outside of our immediate awareness. We also all grow up protecting ourselves as best we can but along the way develop habits and habitual patterns that can ultimately be self-defeating and even destructive.
Therapy is a confidential and reliable space in which you can say and share how you really feel, perhaps about some things for the first time. Together we would also try and start to unravel the past and make a bit more sense of the present.
I believe that my job as a psychotherapist is first and foremost to listen to you, carefully and with respect. In due course, and as I get to know you better, my job is also to say what I think and what I hope is useful.
Lots of people really do find that therapy has helped them to:
- move on in life;
- know and accept themselves better;
- deal with relationships;
- grow to feel more confident or optimistic;
- come to terms with traumas or painful situations;
- find life more satisfying;
- find support and encouragement.